How to clear mind chatter and make space for useful thinking.


mind chatter

Jenny was stressed. She had several projects on the go and the added challenge of organising a family dinner with her partner’s relations. So many thoughts overloaded her mind, with some going around and round creating ‘thought demons’; each demanding attention. There was no space left for thinking clearly about any one thing. She felt she wasn’t capable and was overwhelmed by the constant mind chatter and her anxiety was at a peak.

Jenny decided that this wasn’t good enough for her since she wasn’t enjoying life, so she followed the steps that I’m going to give you here.

These steps are the beginning of a lifetime habit that will quieten mind chatter and make space for clarity, problem solving and creative thought.

  • Make a commitment to invest some time in changing your monkey chatter.
  • Recognise when your mind chatter appears – make a note of what it is.
  • Mind chatter loves attention – don’t fight it. Acknowledge it and change it.
  • Prepare for transformation – ready yourself with positive thoughts (affirmation) to replace the negative busy ones.
  • Create your vision of how you want to be – Have an image of how you are when thinking is clear and productive. It is helpful to have a symbol you can bring to mind easily.
  • Practice – Each time you notice mind chatter, visualise your symbol and say your affirmation.

“But I’m in a hurry”, you say. “I don’t have time for this!”

The truth is, you don’t have time for the mind chatter either. It’s unproductive. By dedicating a relatively small amount of time to commit to and practice this different way of thinking, you will find it will become an automatic reaction to mind chatter and your mind will have the space to problem solve and create.

Why not make a date with yourself today to begin practicing being in charge of your thinking brain?

 

 

Making Presents with Presence

What is your take on giving presents? Are you tired of feeling you have to meet the expectations of others when you choose presents?

Commercial gift

How can you make a present count?

What do you do if a person has everything? How do you choose presents that carry a message of your appreciation, gratitude and best wishes and intentions to the one it is meant for?

Present giving can be a minefield for stress especially at Christmas Season where the spirit of the time is about giving. To say the least, commercialism has a lot to answer for, for taking the spirit out of present giving.

Understandably, financial resources, the number of gifts to be found and the desires of the recipients become the focus and dull the joy of the giving spirit. Social and family culture is also a consideration during this time – ‘How it is done in our family’ – as families come together to celebrate.

Another way of approaching gift giving is to give a gift from your heart; to express all you feel and wish for this person in a present created by you.

Creating Presents from Your Heart

Q. What if I’m not creative? I don’t have a creative bone in my body!

A. Read my previous blog. It will help you understand the nature of creativity.

Q. How can I create a present come from my heart?

A. Creating from the heart begins with getting in touch with, and then listing everything that brings a heart connection between you and the other person. Remember all the things that the other person holds dear and is excited by. This will give you clues as to what kind of present you will create.

When you’ve decided what to create, gather the materials you require together. As you do this, you will consider the colours, shapes and textures that resonate with the person you have in mind.

You may have found a ‘recipe’ on the internet, in a magazine, or from your imagination. As you make the gift keep the person in mind, remembering all the positive things that you, and they, want in their lives. This will put your difference, uniqueness, energy into the gift. It doesn’t have to be perfect. Imperfections, like differences in relationships, are loved for their intention.

Q. What if I can’t make things? I’m all fingers and thumbs.

A. If you insist that you truly don’t want to dip into the full Monty of creating, then you can create by following the steps above, and purchasing, for example, a collection of things that reflect different aspects of the person. These will have the energy of your positive thoughts and will connect with the passions, colours and textures of the person.

Presentation.

Wrap your gift with the same intention, choosing colour and texture and style that reflects the spirit of the person or the nature of your relationship.

An Example:

I decided to create a present for a woman I had met a couple of times before. I wanted to show my respect for her. In making the present, I remembered the meaning of her name, her ethnicity, her love of nature and spirit in all things. I wrapped it in black tissue paper with a red ribbon – indigenous colours. When I gave it to her, she noticed the wrapping and then she took to heart the materials, the colours, the symbol – all that was important to her. We recognised the love and respect and connected in a way that otherwise wouldn’t have happened.


Wishing you a meaning filled Festive Season,

Blessings,

Betsy