Ho’oponopono

 


Ho'oponopono

Ho’oponopono

I love you

I’m sorry

Please forgive me

Thank you

A mantra to change each one of us and to change the world.

You know how sometimes it happens this way – You learn something new, and you’re sure that you really get it; you understand what it means. And then one morning, you wake up and have a REVELATION that your understanding was only the tip of the ice-berg and the meaning has expanded exponentially

Well, that happened to me this morning.

Resolving events from the past

For a long time now I have been reflecting upon times in my life when something has occurred, and too late, I have realised that someone has felt hurt, unheard, misunderstood or even loved in a way they haven’t been able to receive, or have felt their love rejected.

I have felt powerless to move the energy around these times, since we live in a world of past, present and future and current reality is that we all know that the past is gone. I felt deep sadness and regret and a desire to undo or at least resolve these times.

This morning my REVELATION was that I really understood this. The event and each person touched by it is not everything; there is more. It involves the energy that happens in those moments. Often the energy not only remains but intensifies like Lorenz’s metaphor the butterfly effect as the gentle flutter caused by the butterfly’s wings causes a hurricane on the other side of the world. The energy of the event remains unless it has been adequately dealt with, and it amplifies as the emotions of the event are expressed by those affected – affecting more people and so on.

The energy may be old, in the past but it is still there, added to; growing in intensity even though it may have been forgotten.

Imagine that this negative energy is a cloud that we all have contributed to. See it and make it real because we can deal with real objective things and we can transform them into light loving energy.

Ho’oponopono

Some time ago, I was given the gift of Ho’oponopono, and it has sat with me unused until now. As I reflected this morning it all became clear. I revisited Dr Joe Vitale’s website where he explains his first encounter with Ho’oponopono and everything made clear sense. (Read it after this. It’s a good story :))

Ho’oponopono is a mantra:

I love you.

I’m sorry.

Please forgive me.

Thank you.

Ho’oponopono is an expression of unconditional love.

Say it I say it to yourself.

Say it to  all your family, friends and aquaintences.

Say it to everyone in the world. 

Now say it into the cloud you hold with the energy of the past event and ask that it transform it into Love and Light. As you do this you will heal myself with love and all others; the love grows and intensifies into a cyclone of love all over the world.

I quote from the note at the end of the article:

“Dr. Len’s message may be quite hard to believe, yet it’s amazingly simple. He states that we are all responsible for everything that we see in our world. By taking full personal responsibility and then healing the wounded places within ourselves, we can literally heal ourselves and our world. As related by Joe Vitale in the radio interview, Dr. Len suggests a four-stage process for this ho’oponopono work. Whenever a place for healing presents itself in your life, open to the place where the hurt resides within you. After identifying this place, with as much feeling as you can, say the below four statements:

I love you.

I’m sorry.

Please forgive me.

Thank you. ”

This is the gift that I pass on to you today. Together we can change the world.

I love you. I am sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you.

Betsy

Positivity: How to change the consequences of things you cannot change.


Emotional responses
I leant into the cupboard to retrieve my art materials. As I came up to standing, I was at first curious and then shocked, as blood streamed across my vision – my eye was bleeding inside. Just like that! I was blind in one eye and even though I knew it wasn’t permanent, my life for the next months would be severely impaired. I couldn’t drive. I couldn’t see anything on my left side. Reading was a challenge – to name but a few of many things I now couldn’t do normally. Suddenly I had joined the ranks of the partially disabled. How could this have happened to me?

Emotional choices

Emotional choices

Emotional choices

Emotional Choices: How do I want to be?

Having a vital part of you taken away, whether it be physical or situational, is a recipe for disaster and deep depression. I was blind in one eye. My perfectly healthy body had let me down. I couldn’t change the fact that my eye was blind. Everything was a chore. Going to the shops was even more unappealing than it was before – dizzyingly so!

Luckily for me, I have had an amazing life where I have been intensely curious about my emotions and feelings. I choose to live my life in a ‘shamanic’ way, and the guidelines of this path remind me to ‘live in the light’ and to ‘create joy’. This is what saved me from going down the depression path. I made a clear and conscious choice to make the most of my situation and be POSITIVE.

How to be positive in a negative situation.

It’s one thing to make a commitment and another to make it happen. How did I achieve being positive in what appears to be such a negative situation?

¨       I made a choice.

I used to think that emotions and feelings just happened to me. I now know this – I can make a choice about how I feel and dissipate the emotions that arise from negative feelings. I decided that I could choose to be miserable, or I could choose to shine the light on all the positive aspects of being forced to live my life differently. I discovered that, although I had previously been excited about my plans for the year ahead, I had quite a few projects I had put off for a long time and needed to complete. I now had purpose – I had found the positive outcome of my situation.

¨       I made a commitment.

Making a clear and determined commitment is needed to help you follow through. This is true for any changes you choose to make. When make a commitment, there are two main things to consider. Firstly, write it as though it has already been achieved, and secondly make it concrete – write it down and put it where you can see it.

¨       I had a vision.

Every morning I take time to vision my day or something of my choosing. In my situation, I came to vision myself feeling contented and happy doing the things I wished to complete. Visioning is traditionally thought of as having a visual image, but it is more than this. When you vision, bring your feelings into your vision – so visioning myself creating a dreamcatcher became – me feeling the joy, curiosity, serenity, inspiration as though I was present, doing it, in my vision – focus on the positive feelings.

¨       I transformed the negative.

Shamanic practice has taught me to be consciously self-aware. This is such a great tool. It means that I notice when I’m feeling negative before it can get too much of a hold on me. I have learnt to feel into it; acknowledge the feeling and its details. Acknowledging it brings it to the light – out into the open so that I can choose that this is not how I want to be, and change my direction.

¨       And looked for positive.

In her book “Positivity”, Barbara Frederickson says that moments of positivity come in tiny windows. None of us are positive all the time, or we wouldn’t be able to operate in this world. What I have learnt from her research, is that you can catch the fleeting moment when positivity occurs. (conscious self-awareness) MAGNIFY it. CELEBRATE it. CREATE JOY with this moment.

Taking action.

Throughout life things happen to you that you cannot change. It is easy to fall into despair and become immobile.  If you’re feeling like you’re falling into a great hole, falling often feels like the path of least resistance because you have no resources to do it differently. Doing it differently requires you to step up and do something to change the consequences of those things that you cannot change. Stepping up means that you have made the choice to find the benefits and illuminate them and bring them into being. The steps above are designed to help you to act to become positive – in small do-able parts.

Because it is difficult to action new ways of being without knowing what it feels like to be that way, Life Healing Journeys provide you with the opportunity to immerse yourself in this process with compassionate guidance.

Life Healing Journeys come in many forms; individual sessions, small group circles and workshops. These are advertised on lifehealingjourneys.com.au and by newsletter.

Are you connected to your culture? What does that mean?


View of Gunbalanya from the top of Injalak
Coming home from my adventure in Gunbalanya in the Northern Territory, I didn’t experience the usual let down one often experiences after travelling and experiencing new things. For days afterwards my body had a ‘buzzing’ quality about it. Every night I dreamt about just being there, immersed in the richness of that place.

Identifying with Culture

I have often wondered what it would be like to belong to a definitive culture. Like many people who identify as being from ‘Western’ culture, I had little idea about what that means. The language I speak doesn’t feel unique or special as English is far from being unique, the clothes I wear are generic and it’s only when I’m singing nursery rhymes to my grandchildren that I am reminded that they, well some of them, hark from my ancestors.

I need to explain here that my childhood experience was that of living in England, Australia in the 50’s and 60’s, in New Guinea, and in boarding school in country Australia. I was blessed by the fact that my parents arranged our lives in a way that we met and played with indigenous children which was unusual at that time. People like to mix with those of their own culture where they feel they belong and are unchallenged in their ways and beliefs. So I am blessed with not having these barriers and at the same time wonder about my culture!

It seems to me that I mustn’t be alone in feeling disenfranchised from my ancestors and their culture as people migrate to other lands and adjust to the ways of their new home.

Connecting with ancestors


The Downs, Guildford, Surrey, England.
As my life progresses, I become more aware of how important it is to know who I am and where I come from. So it is that I recently returned to England to walk on the ‘Downs’ of Guildford where I was born, and soak up the energy of the circles at Avebury; conscious of my desire to connect with my ancestors. I returned with a greater sense of feeling my feet upon the ground and a knowing of who I am.

Immersed in a ‘definitive’ culture.

Sitting on the age old rocks at Number 2 Waterfall near Gunbalanya in the Northern Territory, the ancient spirit of the place seeped into my very being. The water in the waterhole lay still, only now and again rippled by the breeze. The trees protected us as we sat with our lunch in the open cave of rocks. Christine and Priscilla and Sylvia were stripping pandanus and I urged them to tell us some stories.


Christine at Number 2 Waterfall

With some hesitance at first, Christine began to tell us the story of the three-legged dog and her mate who made this place. One story led to another … Number one waterfall was made by her mate who dug so deep he released a water spout which shot him up into the air, trapping him into the rocks above …. and another….

When one reads these indigenous stories published in picture books, they are children’s stories; simplistic, colourful, explaining creation or giving a lesson. …. But as I sat there entranced, feeling the spirit of everything around us, I sensed a much deeper connection in the stories.

In ‘Western culture’ stories are fiction and fiction means that they aren’t true. We reassure ourselves that this is a fantasy world that we can only enter in dreams and even then, they aren’t true.


Storys shared at No 2 Waterfall.

Christine sharing stories.

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Sitting here in this very place that holds the spirit of all that has happened over thousands of years, I could see the conviction of belief in the tellers’ eyes. They, and also myself as I listened, were connected deeply to the stories and, I believe, to the deeper meanings not revealed to the uninitiated outsiders. Many of these same stories that are published as children’s tales to entertain have more detailed versions that contain deeper meanings and truths relating the culture and memories of the people and the ancestors who own them.
Later we visited Number 1 Waterfall where the three legged dog’s mate dug a hole so deep that a waterspout erupted and shot him up and trapped him in the rocks above – can you see him in this picture? His head is in the corner where the angles meet.

Dog trapped in the corner of the rocks.

We are all one.

Indigenous stories are a large part of their culture especially because these were not ‘literate’ societies but ‘orality’ societies where information is memorised with the help of stories and paintings. I heard more stories when we climbed Injalak; a rocky outcrop viewed in its magnificence from Injalak Arts Centre in Gunbalanya. A beautiful place where women’s ceremonies are held, Injalak has at least 15 rock art galleries and is the place where long ago people went during the big wet to live out of the way of the flooding rains.


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Gabriella was our special guide. As we sat below the image of the Creation Mother with her dilly bags, Gabriella told us how Creation Mother came in from the North bringing her dilly bags each of which contained all of the information that described each of the groups of people; their names, their skin names, their moiety to name a few. What struck me was that she shared with us that these were for all groups, white people included.


Gabriella telling the story of Creation Mother

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The Creation Mother is for all people. For me this was the moment when my culture merged with the indigenous culture of this land. We are all indeed one. The creator created all of us. It was absolutely confirming and beautiful to hear this from Gabriella as she told the story.

The shift in Universal energy that people are talking about describes how we are moving from being separate to coming together as one. This story, belonging to indigenous culture includes me; it changes me from being an outsider to being included, recognising the whole of world peoples as one.

The impact of the experience

The impact of being immersed in another culture as deeply as one can be, even if for a few days and when they are an outsider, was profound. For a small wink in time, I was embraced into this ancient culture. I felt and breathed the spirit of the place; the rocks, the water, the plants, the wind, the people. I connected with the ancestors of these people and the land; with my breath, my presence and through story.

 Where to now?

Back on home ground I am aware of how I will bring my experience together so that it enriches my personal culture on a daily basis. I feel that my ability to sense the environment around me; to be able to ‘read’ the energy, be conscious of it has become part of the way I am. I have learnt more about being at peace, taking time to absorband listen, and to connect with my ancestors too. … and as I’ve been writing a peewee bird, symbolic of my ancestors and those of this land has been walking beside me on the grass!

I said to our indigenous guide and companion, Christine, when I bade my farewells, “Our ancestors have met. We will always be connected after this beautiful experience.” and I believe this to be the truth.

Finding your personal culture is empowering as it is the outcome of really coming to know yourself. You may discover that some of the things you hold onto are fear-based beliefs that have been instilled by your family’s culture. When you know that what you truly believe serves you and your personal goodness and wellbeing you will find that you have come home to your personal chosen culture.

Here are some steps to begin the process.

  1. Learn to breathe. (Go to https://lifehealingjourneys.com.au for this information)

  2. Practice sitting and being – feeling and awareness of each element in your surroundings.

  3. Examine the things in your life that you take for granted. Decide whether they are true or have been imposed as the truth for someone else’s benefit. You can change your beliefs.

  4. Be aware of your values and check to see if your actions reflect them.

In Conclusion

Culture is what we choose to connect with and what resonates with ourselves personally. Some of us come from strong cultures that may overbear and dictate what they do in life and I wonder if this is all really culture? Culture is such a big word. For me, returning to my ancestral place in England and then experiencing connection to the land through the generosity of the indigenous people in Arnhem Land, I have a greater sense of my culture through my deep seated beliefs around Oneness, connection and the Spirit in all things. This effects the way I am, and in turn, the way I am with others with the intention being for the good of all – or One.

As always, if you think I can help you find your way, then please connect with me through phone, Facebook and website.


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Injalak rock gallery

Lightening man

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Some References:

  1. Injalak Arts Centre http://injalak.com/
  2. Lynne Kelly, “The Memory Code”  Allen & Unwin: 2016
  3. Louise Hambly, “Containers of Power: women with clever hands.” Utber&Patullo Pub: 2010.

Raging Waters Have Symbolic Meaning

Have you ever noticed how the nature reflects the pattern of your life?

Have you noticed how the weather affects your moods?

The recent deluge of rain caused a very significant flash flood in our local creek with the water inundating the park and walking track. Tonnes of gravel was shifted from the creek bed to cover the path and river sand covered the park. Trees had been undermined by the force of the water and some had fallen. Their branches and other debris remained where the water had left them; choking the bridges and wrapped around the plants and posts that had caught them.

As I walked down the path after the event, I felt the great power that had been unleashed and I knew that this was significant for my life. I felt like a weight had lifted from my shoulders and the emotional confusion that I have been feeling had been washed away.

When you walk in conscious awareness you come to notice everything around you and you notice significant things; symbols that will add meaning to your life. The unconscious part of our brains is many times larger than the conscious part and we aren’t able to access this information directly. When we dream our brain waves have slowed down allowing messages in symbol form to rise to our conscious brain. This is why dreams often entertain us with their funny or fearful stories. In the same way that we can interpret these dream symbols, we can also interpret the symbols that we notice through conscious awareness.

To walk in conscious awareness, I first decide upon a question or a problem that is troubling me and ask for guidance around it during my walk. I ground myself, breathe, call my guides, and ask my question. ‘What can my walk tell me about what has been happening in my life?’ I then walk, with my mind relaxed and open to anything that presents itself.

The day after the flood there were several significant things that presented them to me. Water is often described as symbolic of emotions. As I have mentioned already, the atmosphere, the energy surrounding me, was very powerful. It contained the power that had been expressed by nature the day before and had a strong feeling of everything being flushed clean and renewed.

Gravel was swept in a small mountain range across the path; fresh small rocks piled into a form that I had to step through and over as I couldn’t go around. For me this symbolised fresh new things coming across my path that I can’t avoid. I will experience them and emerge on the other side better for the experiences.

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The evidence of the power of the water was everywhere. The flattened grass and weeds showed the ‘going with the flow’ of the water and surviving. The debris under the bridge and against the trees spoke to me of holding onto the old and the message to release and let it go with the flow – keeping only that which will serve me well.
Ducks were in their element as they paddled happily in the tranquil ponds left by the flooding rains, finding lots of juicy grubs to eat. Ducks work hard paddling under water while they look serene as they glide along – hard work creates serenity through organisation and planning for it. Enjoying the flow, the emotions both overwhelming and calm, seeing out the storm and reaping the benefits are other messages here.

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Walking in conscious awareness this way connects me with my guides and intuition. The messages are very confirming about what is happening in my life, give me some clear directions for moving ahead and hope for the future.

Here is a pattern to follow.

  1. Breathe and ground yourself and ask for your guides to be with you.
  2. Set a clear intention for your walk
  3. Walk with your mind relaxed, not thinking or wandering; allow it to take in your surroundings.
  4. Notice anything that presents to you.
  5. Write these down on completion of your walk.
  6. ‘Listen’ to how each of these sound to you when you write them. What do they mean for you with regard to your intention?
  7. How do these come together to make a story to answer your intention?

So, next time you go for a walk, why don’t you set your intention to find answers to something that’s been bothering you and see what happens. I wonder what you’ll discover?

Breathe! It’s Important.

Breathe! It’s important!

I breathe to live

I breathe to energise

I breathe to be calm

I breathe to ground and to be confident

I breathe to release

I breathe to relax

I breathe for Mindfulness

I breathe to heal

 

Most of us take breathing for granted. After all our bodies take care of this every moment of life function. The truth is though, that we get tied up with the story of our lives and all of the stresses and strains, conditioning, self judgement and fear, to name a few things change the way we breathe. Our ‘normal’ breath becomes changed so that it is no longer as effective in its function and this affects our bodies’ oxygen supply.

How can Breathing Help?

  • Mindfulness; watching how the breath enters and leaves the body is a major key in using the breath to help feel better in all ways.
  • Stress and anxiety is caused by the fight, flight or freeze programming in the brain. Breathing is an almost magical tool in creating a ‘switch’ to turn this programming off or at least tune it down when it has gone out of control.
  • Used mindfully and with intention, breath can be used to clear the energy field and body of negative emotions and past trauma.
  • With mindfulness and intention the breath can also be used to ground yourself, and along with visualisation, to draw into yourself the way of being and feeling that you desire.

Could you ever have imagined how powerful something so taken for granted could be!

In Gratitude,

Betsy

If you’d like to know more, try my book, “The Building Blocks of Self Care: what everybody needs to know.”

Being Creative

2015-09-27 16.30.22Creativity is an essential part of each one of us.

Being creative is essential to our every day self-care and well-being.

 

 

When I was painting this picture, the joy of doing it was in the creativity.

I had no idea of what it would turn out like. I had a sketchy vision in my mind – the creativity was in choosing the colours, the shapes, the material I glued on, and relating them to each other using my intuition – my feeling and knowing what to choose and use!

I had no agenda, no desire to succeed, just to be in the moment and do what came to me. I took a risk with every move I made and trusted that it would work out well.
When we think ‘creative’ we often think ‘Art’.
The words Creativity and art are not necessarily interchangeable! While some of us express our creativity through art, others express it in other ways!
Think of the many ways we express ourselves and become more aware of how you most easily express your creativity.

Gardner’s theory of Multiple Intelligences can help us here

  1. Language
  2. Visual
  3. Logic (e.g. problem solving, chess)
  4. Inter-personal relationships (with others)
  5. Intra-personal relationships (with ourselves)
  6. Music
  7. Spiritual
  8. Kinesthetic ( using the physical body eg. dancing, playing sport)

We often combine two or more of these at a time.

It is always interesting to choose one of the above that isn’t in our usual comfort zone and experiment with it. For example, I am not a dancer by any long shot!! However, I love to be given permission to move creatively and have attended workshops that do this. So it is fun when I do the giving of permission and jump and jiggle around the lounge room!

Why is this self care? Doing anything in a relaxed way gives our brains a rest. It becomes a different kind of meditation; a moving meditation. It activates parts of the brain that otherwise don’t get exercised and allows the brain to relax and new ideas arise: more creativity.

Don’t put this off! It is too important. Give yourself permission to be creative today.

Knowing Yourself



Knowing Authentic Self

is the KEY

to

living authentically

and

achieving your dreams.

Each of us are the total of our conditioning, cultural upbringing, experiences, relationships, potential, abilities and talents, values and physical selves and I’m sure that you will find other aspects that I haven’t mentioned! These aspects of ourselves and our lives set us up for our life’s journey and somewhere amongst them is our true self, pushed here and there, influenced in this way or that. … So how do we re-connect and re-discover our true self?

SELF AWARENESS is the beginning and the absolute core of getting to know yourself well. You will begin to find out where you are reacting and responding in ways that are authentic to your true nature. You will be able to learn to change the reactions that you don’t like to more authentic responses. You will come to know what your true values are and what interests you and alights your passion.

HOW do I get to REALLY KNOW Myself?

Well a good start is to learn to BE AWARE of myself; how I feel, how I deal with those feelings, the effect I have on others and how much I allow my brain to make decisions for me.

Here are ten tips that I’ve noticed help me to BE AWARE

  1. Regularly stop and do a body scan, noticing where in your body you are tense and how each part of your body feels.
  2. Now brains can be bossy. They think that they know what is right for you and want to keep you safe. So, notice what your brain is saying to you and question the validity of what you hear. “Does this serve me well?” Much of what the brain rabbits on about comes from conditioning (e.g. messages your parents and teachers repeated to you) and you may notice that much of what it is saying is negative, fearful and downright unhelpful! CHOOSE to transform these thoughts into positive loving conversations that will serve you well.
  3. Learn to ‘ground’ yourself and you will find that you will be more in tune with yourself and your actions and reactions will be more reflective of who you are.
  4. Take keen notice of how your body and your brain react to others and what they say and do. Decide to work out what the ‘story’ is behind your reactions.
  5. When you find yourself reacting negatively to what someone is doing or saying, ASK them questions about the situation. Become curious and find out all the details. You will be surprised how often our initial reactions are based on too little understanding of others.
  6. With self awareness you will become clearer about your values.
  7. With self awareness you will begin to notice your self-talk. This will tell you whether the beliefs you live by are serving you well or are due for an overhaul and to be framed in a different light.

 



Tree Metaphor

I looked for a tree symbol of my inner self.

Meet my beautiful tree! She is straight strong and true.

She is thoroughly grounded.

Her branches tell me to reach for the sky in all directions.

Her bark is continually renewing and harbors small animals, while her branches embrace the nests of birds.

Animal Guides

Feeling alone in this World can be daunting at times. Often we have to find strength from within ourselves in order to cope with life’s situations.

This is when Spirit Guides are a very useful ‘tool’ to help us manage.

I have a white wolf as my animal guide. I often feel him walking beside me, reminding me of my strengths and giving me courage to follow through.

One day, feeling down, I happened to notice the picture above on the wall of the office where I was working, and there, practically leaping out of the picture was my white wolf! I had never noticed him before but there he was at this crucial time, reminding me that I share his strengths; I just need reminding that I have them inside ready to use!.

Can you see him?

He is to the right of the jar near the reeds.

He reminds me that I have the strength, the tenacity and the skills to do what I choose to achieve in this world; to face and overcome all the challenges … and that everything is as it should be!


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 My beautiful white wolf shining out of this picture on the wall – reminding me –

I have the strength and tenacity to meet all of the challenges I face in this world … and all is as it should be!

And here is the painting I did of my wolf not log after he began journeying alongside me.

I wonder what your power animals are and what strengths they remind you of and what messages they bring you? When you journey to meet your power animals you are in a dimension where they can talk to you and help you to find answers to your questions.

So, if you haven’t experienced this and would like to, contact me and we will journey together!

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Happiness and Contentment



I imagine that many people’s

main wish in life would be to be

HAPPY AND CONTENTED

most of the time.

Is this true for you? It certainly is for me! Like everything in life though, we need BALANCE. So I would re-phrase my wish as a goal to “Have balance in life”. This means that if I’m happy and contented I will also have times of ‘not so happy’ and discontentment. With balance one experiences both sides. One without the other would possibly mean that I was either not living enough or that I was challenging myself too much!

BALANCE also means that we need to have a good balance where our actions reflect the values we hold dear.

Are you feeling OUT OF BALANCE; experiencing overwhelm, stress or anxiety? Then it may be helpful to do this Self Care Checklist I have designed to check the balance between values and actions in each area of your life.