Inspiration through story. Share this game with me!

Inspiration from natureOne of the elements of Positivity described by Barbara Fredrickson is Inspiration. Being inspired is a quality that brings positivity. I’d like to invite you to play a ‘story’ game with me!

I love sharing stories with other people, but even better, it is fun to hear the stories of others as I find them so inspiring. So please join in and share your ending to this story and inspire all of us!

How to play!

Below you will find I have written a story with words in brackets as an example – followed by the same story with blanks for you to copy and paste. The idea is to create your own story of inspiration. The format of the story below is to help you. Play the game by copying and pasting the story in the comments below and simply placing your words in spaces, or you may like to use all of your own words. It’s okay too to re-post your story with the hashtag #inspiringstory

“As I walked down the path, I remembered to ‘tune in’ to myself and become consciously aware; of what I was thinking, and what I was seeing around me. My thoughts in the present time, were focussed on … (a shared circle I was facilitating next week). As I walked on, I noticed (the flow of the water in the creek, flocks of birds swirling above, a lone crow looking directly at me … (all the lights turned green giving my passage free flow) My experience left me inspired because … (the signs showed me that I was in the right flow and on the right course)”

Cut and paste:

“As I walked down the path, I remembered to ‘tune in’ to myself and become consciously aware; of what I was thinking, and what I was seeing around me. My thoughts in the present time, were focussed on __________. As I walked on, I noticed _____________. My experience left me inspired because _________________________.”

It’s Your Turn!

Every time we do, think or be anything positive, we are energising positivity; adding to the light shining in our world and balancing the dark that likes to consume us when we’re not aware. So, come on board and brighten the world with your story; fact or fiction is okay!

Now it’s your turn! Come on, have a go and share your inspiration! And share the game so your friends can have a turn.

Shamanism: An Ancient Recipe for Modern Living

Shamanism - an ancient recipe for modern living

Jean felt lost. While she was a student there was always the next class to attend or assignment to be done. Her life was  structured by her timetable and tasks to complete. Now that she had graduated life had changed. There was no structure determining her next moves. She was anxious and felt insecure; that she had been set adrift with nowhere and everywhere to go, with no rudder to steer her.

She didn’t know it then, but her life was about to change. As she scrolled through her Facebook feed, she saw posts that ignited her curiosity. The posts were about Shamanism and practices.

Jean Today

You wouldn’t recognise the same Jean today. She has a presence that tells you she knows herself well and will fearlessly pursues the things that she is passionate about. Jean hasn’t just achieved goals that she has set herself, she is tuned in to her environment, compassionate and aware of others and is true to her values. She is confident, self-assured, and above all, happy.

Shamanism

Contemporary shamanism draws from the ancient practices of indigenous cultures across the world. Shamanism is not a religion, but a spiritual way of life that embraces all the practicality of daily living. Jung travelled the world observing indigenous cultures. He observed great similarities shared by cultures that had never had contact with each other. Subsequently, modern psychology has created modalities for treating patients based on his observations. Contemporary Shamanism goes further in that it gives you the tools to live consciously aware; to know yourself well and create a lifestyle that reflects your true nature.

It is a common theme in many people’s lives that they lose confidence, feel unworthy, lost and unsure like Jean. Many also find themselves repeating the same pattern repeatedly; often becoming worse with each cycle. Jean attended several private sessions that in turn dealt with the causes of her lack of confidence and direction. Conditioning from childhood experiences (wounding), ancestral patterns, soul’s journey and past lives all contribute to how we are in the world. With the help of a shamanic practitioner, these were discovered and brought to the light and transformed. In this way, Jean was relieved of the burdens of conditioning and past experiences and could step forward and express her true self.

Self-Empowering

This may sound rather daunting as it sounds radically life-changing; and it can be! However, Shamanic practice is a self-empowering process where you are completely in charge and learn as you grow and change. Shamanism is a many faceted concept and you will be attracted to the things that will resonate with you most. To give you a better idea, this is Jean’s experience.

Jean’s Journey

# Visioning workshop

Jean needed to find some direction so she decided to attend a shamanic workshop with the intention of creating a vision of her future. She was immersed in a safe and sacred space with others with similar intentions. As the workshop progressed, she became fascinated by how the ritual, symbols in many forms, and the Sacred Circle of Whole Consciousness spoke to her, her truth and helped her to vision what is possible in her life.

# Personal Sessions

After the workshop, Jean was aware that she was feeling quite anxious about some aspects of her vision and that she couldn’t bring them to reality. She decided to have some personal sessions. Each session was focussed on a vision that she wanted to achieve; confidence, assertiveness. During each session, she felt healed; that ‘blocks’ had been transformed into the light aspects that she desired, and were now part of her.

# Everyday Living

A core principal of Shamanism is to be consciously aware – in the present moment. As she learnt more about Shamanism, Jean learnt tools for everyday living. She learnt to stop regularly during the day to be mindful, to notice the small things that are usually missed and recognise them as signs of synchronicity. She remembered the ‘rules’ that are congruent with the Shamanic Way – The 8 Ways, channelled by Heather Price – to keep her on track.

In this way, Jean became who she is today – her authentic self. She is confident, happy, fulfilled and positive.

What about you?

Are you living life the way you want to? Do you feel that you are comfortable being yourself in all situations, or do you put on a mask and act as though you must be someone else in the theatre of life? Are you confident and happy? Are your relationships loving and caring?

Life is too short to not be confident and happy in the way you live it. Although changing the way it is now can be daunting, the outcome of change – transforming it – is beautiful as it brings the gifts of confidence, joy and peace and you become the best that you can be.

The added bonus of Shamanic practice is that it not only supports you with vital tools for living. It provides you with ‘culture’; a depth and richness to life that otherwise may not be there, as rituals, symbolism and conscious awareness bring colour and deep meaning to daily life.

If you would like to know more, please explore my website and any questions, please contact me.

Shamanic Journeys can turn your life around.

Shamanic Journeys use the language of the unconscious mind – ritual, narrative and symbolism – making them a powerful tool for transforming your life.

Have you ever felt weak and unequal to a situation; times when you lack confidence? Have you noticed that you are repeating unhealthy situations/relationships in your life? Do you find that life is anything but happy and relaxed?

Feeling threatened, not enough, stressed and anxious is soo uncomfortable. It makes life feel like a constant chore of survival rather than a walk in the park, so it’s very concerning that so many people live like this day in and day out.

Obstacles to change

I wonder then, why more people seem to accept the way they live rather than looking for another way?

What’s the problem?

It may be that life has always been a struggle and you aren’t aware that it can be different. It really doesn’t have to be so hard and uncomfortable. For example, John and Belle both grew up in families where their parents and siblings spoke in loud aggressive voices; in fact, if they didn’t they didn’t get heard. So, in turn, the family they were growing together was also full of the energy of conflict. They didn’t know that this is not the norm for everyone.

It’s too hard to make change happen.

Maybe you have tried to do things differently – you’ve separated from your partner and now you’re noticing negativity happening in your new relationship. This is really tough. It hurts in so many different ways, especially if you are trying to make change happen unsupported.

I don’t feel comfortable about seeking help.

When you ask for help, the invisible elephant in the room can be that if you ask for help, it means you’ve failed.  Messages implanted in your brain from past experience can be your worst enemy. Asking for ‘help’ is better translated as ‘healing’, ‘guidance’, ‘education’. You are not a ‘victim’ who needs ‘helping’ – you are a person looking for a new way of life.

Choosing Shamanic Journeying for Life Change

As a clinical counsellor, I looked for tools to support my clients and among the many modalities I learnt, Shamanism stood out. Many of the theories of modern psychology are drawn from Jung’s observation of indigenous communities across the world. Contemporary Shamanism applies them in truly practical ways. Like Indigenous cultures dating back to pre-historical times, contemporary shamanism recognises the power of ritual, of conscious awareness, of connection with nature, of the power of symbols and is a gentle and supportive framework that you can use to turn your life around.

While engaging in these practices is my choice of life-style, understanding and embracing shamanic practice isn’t necessary for you to achieve impressive results. Experiencing guided shamanic journeys – individually or in a group – is a powerful vehicle for change.

# Personal Journey

Take Jenny for example. She was tired of struggling to find her path in life. Her confidence was at a low point and she often felt life wasn’t worth living. She came to me because she wanted to be confident and strong. During our journey together, her traumatic childhood experiences, previously never told, were brought to the light and examined. The nature of the wounding she had experienced led to a deeper Shamanic Journey of ‘Soul Retrieval’. Following her Shamanic Journey, she no longer felt weak and inadequate. She felt complete, strong and more ‘together’ than she had ever before. Although there were more journeys to be experienced before she became fully into her power, she was well on the way.

# Group Journey

Jillian was stressed out and overwhelmed with work, family and study commitments. She never had time for herself. She decided to flex her work days and attend a Circle of Self-Care – a small group Shamanic Journey. During the journey, she learnt many techniques to bring self-care into her daily living and a plan to put them into action. She was armed with powerful symbols that she could call upon; symbols that helped her to be consciously aware of her stress levels and act before they escalated.

# Meditation

Joan suffered shortness of breath and heart palpitations; anxiety and sometimes panic attacks. She knew about meditation and practiced it with a cd but when she attended meditation where she was guided to breathe correctly, scan her body and release tension, and learn mindfulness, she was able to take the benefits of meditation into her daily life and effectively manage her condition.

Are you ready to turn your life around?

We are all on this planet to learn and most often we are reluctant to examine the things that hurt in our lives. I urge you to wait no longer. Shamanic practices are powerful and yet gentle tools where guidance and techniques release you from hurt and restrictions; empowering you to live fully and joyfully.

Injalak

How Shamanic Journey Helps Solve a Dilemma

 

Confused ideas and choices entangled stops the flow forward

Confused ideas and choices become entangled and stop the flow forward

Angela’s heart was racing. Her chest contracted and fire burnt from her heart down her arms. Her throat was closed and tight. She wasn’t sure why this was happening, but she had been told it was a panic attack. She realised that for some time she had been worrying over changes she would ultimately have to make in her life and she was becoming more anxious as time progressed. She had heard about the gentle process of  a shamanic journey and how it would empower her to make her decisions.

When Angela came to see me, she was distressed. She was experiencing panic attacks and felt that her world was going to collapse. All this, because she couldn’t make a decision about what her next move would be. Either way, she felt that she would lose; that the change involved would be frightening and challenging. She wanted clarity. She wanted to be able to decide what was best for her from her heart – with confidence and courage.

Angela decided to have a session where she would be guided on a journey within. By journeying within, she would be able to explore the different scenarios of her choices and gain a true feeling about how each one would impact on her – without the distraction of her fearful brain. She would be fully supported and safe as she was guided on the journey.

Injalak

Angela was concerned that she wouldn’t be able to journey; that her brain would stop her with too many thoughts. I supported Angela as she constructed a clear intention for her journey to ensure it would be purposeful. She breathed deep and slow and relaxed. With my guidance and the company of her spirit guides, she journeyed deep into the earth; into a cave.

After her journey, Angela was both surprised and enlightened by her experience. She said that as she visited the nooks and crannies of the cave in her journey, her experience showed her the reality of each of her possible choices. She hadn’t expected to be so connected with her feelings during the journey. She now felt confident with a clear vision of what she truly wanted to achieve and had new creative ideas to grow.

Before her experience, Angela was torn between several choices. She couldn’t decide what to choose because her fears and fearful brain were cluttering her mind, stopping her and leaving her more confused than ever. As time progressed, this became worse and was a continual assault upon her life. When she decided to act, a weight was taken off her shoulders.

The process of the Shamanic journey was gentle and supportive, boosting her confidence and understanding of who she truly is, and opened the way to a new chapter in her life.

When you want to make changes in your life – you feel stuck and yet want to move forward – you don’t have to do it alone. Shamanic journeys provide gentle guidance for you to find your way, and put your vision into action.

If you would like to journey with my guidance, please contact me. I offer private sessions, group healing circles and meditation.

How to clear mind chatter and make space for useful thinking.


mind chatter

Jenny was stressed. She had several projects on the go and the added challenge of organising a family dinner with her partner’s relations. So many thoughts overloaded her mind, with some going around and round creating ‘thought demons’; each demanding attention. There was no space left for thinking clearly about any one thing. She felt she wasn’t capable and was overwhelmed by the constant mind chatter and her anxiety was at a peak.

Jenny decided that this wasn’t good enough for her since she wasn’t enjoying life, so she followed the steps that I’m going to give you here.

These steps are the beginning of a lifetime habit that will quieten mind chatter and make space for clarity, problem solving and creative thought.

  • Make a commitment to invest some time in changing your monkey chatter.
  • Recognise when your mind chatter appears – make a note of what it is.
  • Mind chatter loves attention – don’t fight it. Acknowledge it and change it.
  • Prepare for transformation – ready yourself with positive thoughts (affirmation) to replace the negative busy ones.
  • Create your vision of how you want to be – Have an image of how you are when thinking is clear and productive. It is helpful to have a symbol you can bring to mind easily.
  • Practice – Each time you notice mind chatter, visualise your symbol and say your affirmation.

“But I’m in a hurry”, you say. “I don’t have time for this!”

The truth is, you don’t have time for the mind chatter either. It’s unproductive. By dedicating a relatively small amount of time to commit to and practice this different way of thinking, you will find it will become an automatic reaction to mind chatter and your mind will have the space to problem solve and create.

Why not make a date with yourself today to begin practicing being in charge of your thinking brain?

 

 

How to fight your negative thought demons and win!

Kasha watched as a demon rose from the earth and solidified before her. Its bulging red eyes fixed on her and it moved to attack.

She took up her best ninja stance and conjured a ball of pure energy into her hands. As the demon approached, she took a deep breath and aimed. The energy ball shot forward.

There was a thunderous crack! The demon transformed into to smoky grey ribbons – dispersing into the ether.


negative thought demon
Thoughts are not only in your brain. They are physical energy and have substance. It is just that you can’t see them, as you can’t see air. Negative dark thoughts and the mind chatter worries are just like demons; rising and solidifying. They grow big and destructive. They activate your fear reaction, impeding your ability to think clearly so that you can solve the problem rationally. Anxiety becomes rife and a constant companion.

How to create your ‘energy ball’

Kasha conjured a ball of energy to fight the demon and you can do this too. She had to prepare and train to be able to do this and so will you. Here is how to go about it.

  1. Recognise when your demons are appearing.

Take time to write down your negative thoughts so that you are aware of when they are ‘attacking’. Make them physical and tangible – write the words or draw the story as suits your style. Acknowledging is always the first step for change. This means you are being consciously aware. Thought demons like the dark so in doing this, you are bringing them into the light.

  1. Demons love attention.

Demons love the energy of negative attention and get bigger and more substantial if you oppose them. When they arise, give them positive attention; notice them and acknowledge them.

  1. Prepare for transformation.

Energy ball ingredient #1: For each of the negative thoughts you are aware of, decide what thoughts will benefit you most, to replace your demons. Write these as affirmations – begin with ‘I’ and continue with words that say it is already happening. e.g. I am doing ‘this’ with ease.  (as opposed to ‘I can’t do this it’s too hard’ demon) These are powerful ingredients in your ‘energy ball’.

  1. Create your vision of how you want to be.

Energy ball ingredient #2: Take a quiet moment alone to breathe into your belly, relax and see yourself being confident and successful. This is a powerful ingredient in your ‘energy ball’.

  1. Hit those demons with your energy ball.

Once you have done step 4, take a breath into your belly, gathering positive energy, and bring your success image to mind. Now then replace them. Say the affirmation you have prepared several times.

Demons are Powerful

Remember the saying, “The bigger they are the harder they fall”? Often people spend their lives with these demons believing they are the truth. When you notice that you are feeling unhappy and not good enough, it is time to make those demons large and substantial so that they will fall hard and be transformed into the contents of your energy ball! – Your vision of being fully confident and successful. Remember this doesn’t just happen by itself. Transformation takes intention, preparation and practice.

 

Like to have some guidance?

I invite you to join in circle with other like-minded spirits and be guided to create your energy ball and transform your demons in Circles of Self-Care.

If you would prefer, I am available for private sessions – Call or text me.

Positivity: How to change the consequences of things you cannot change.


Emotional responses
I leant into the cupboard to retrieve my art materials. As I came up to standing, I was at first curious and then shocked, as blood streamed across my vision – my eye was bleeding inside. Just like that! I was blind in one eye and even though I knew it wasn’t permanent, my life for the next months would be severely impaired. I couldn’t drive. I couldn’t see anything on my left side. Reading was a challenge – to name but a few of many things I now couldn’t do normally. Suddenly I had joined the ranks of the partially disabled. How could this have happened to me?

Emotional choices

Emotional choices

Emotional choices

Emotional Choices: How do I want to be?

Having a vital part of you taken away, whether it be physical or situational, is a recipe for disaster and deep depression. I was blind in one eye. My perfectly healthy body had let me down. I couldn’t change the fact that my eye was blind. Everything was a chore. Going to the shops was even more unappealing than it was before – dizzyingly so!

Luckily for me, I have had an amazing life where I have been intensely curious about my emotions and feelings. I choose to live my life in a ‘shamanic’ way, and the guidelines of this path remind me to ‘live in the light’ and to ‘create joy’. This is what saved me from going down the depression path. I made a clear and conscious choice to make the most of my situation and be POSITIVE.

How to be positive in a negative situation.

It’s one thing to make a commitment and another to make it happen. How did I achieve being positive in what appears to be such a negative situation?

¨       I made a choice.

I used to think that emotions and feelings just happened to me. I now know this – I can make a choice about how I feel and dissipate the emotions that arise from negative feelings. I decided that I could choose to be miserable, or I could choose to shine the light on all the positive aspects of being forced to live my life differently. I discovered that, although I had previously been excited about my plans for the year ahead, I had quite a few projects I had put off for a long time and needed to complete. I now had purpose – I had found the positive outcome of my situation.

¨       I made a commitment.

Making a clear and determined commitment is needed to help you follow through. This is true for any changes you choose to make. When make a commitment, there are two main things to consider. Firstly, write it as though it has already been achieved, and secondly make it concrete – write it down and put it where you can see it.

¨       I had a vision.

Every morning I take time to vision my day or something of my choosing. In my situation, I came to vision myself feeling contented and happy doing the things I wished to complete. Visioning is traditionally thought of as having a visual image, but it is more than this. When you vision, bring your feelings into your vision – so visioning myself creating a dreamcatcher became – me feeling the joy, curiosity, serenity, inspiration as though I was present, doing it, in my vision – focus on the positive feelings.

¨       I transformed the negative.

Shamanic practice has taught me to be consciously self-aware. This is such a great tool. It means that I notice when I’m feeling negative before it can get too much of a hold on me. I have learnt to feel into it; acknowledge the feeling and its details. Acknowledging it brings it to the light – out into the open so that I can choose that this is not how I want to be, and change my direction.

¨       And looked for positive.

In her book “Positivity”, Barbara Frederickson says that moments of positivity come in tiny windows. None of us are positive all the time, or we wouldn’t be able to operate in this world. What I have learnt from her research, is that you can catch the fleeting moment when positivity occurs. (conscious self-awareness) MAGNIFY it. CELEBRATE it. CREATE JOY with this moment.

Taking action.

Throughout life things happen to you that you cannot change. It is easy to fall into despair and become immobile.  If you’re feeling like you’re falling into a great hole, falling often feels like the path of least resistance because you have no resources to do it differently. Doing it differently requires you to step up and do something to change the consequences of those things that you cannot change. Stepping up means that you have made the choice to find the benefits and illuminate them and bring them into being. The steps above are designed to help you to act to become positive – in small do-able parts.

Because it is difficult to action new ways of being without knowing what it feels like to be that way, Life Healing Journeys provide you with the opportunity to immerse yourself in this process with compassionate guidance.

Life Healing Journeys come in many forms; individual sessions, small group circles and workshops. These are advertised on lifehealingjourneys.com.au and by newsletter.

Dragonfly: metaphor for diversity


thanks https://pixabay.com for these pictures
I was surrounded by dragonflies. Like mini bi-planes, each dragonfly had broad flat orange wings – each with a black spot – that kept them hovering about 30cm from the ground. I couldn’t believe what I was seeing and experiencing! These creatures in my experience are usually finely built and flit quickly in and out of your vision as they fly and hover over water. As I crossed the somewhat dusty flat ground toward Injalak Arts building, a hundred or more hovered and swirled not far from me, maintaining their height from the ground and seemingly not at all intimidated by this intruder. 
I’ve always been fascinated by insects and this was an event that was worth writing about! I couldn’t effectively photograph the dragonflies as on camera they blurred with the background of the ground – so my picture will have to do! Imagine hundreds of these hovering at about knee height all around you.

Dragonflies with orange wings with black dots.

What can we learn from Nature?

Seeing these dragonflies, so unique in their shape and behaviour was awesome. That there was so many dancing to the same tune was almost overwhelming. I couldn’t help but wonder at them and ponder about what I could learn from them.

In his blog, “Australian dragonflies and man: now and in the future” , Prof. Günther Theischinger says that “Australia’s 325 species of dragonflies and damselflies (Odonata) includes many ancient lineages of Gondwanan origin, and most are thought to have become restricted to the cooler wetter habitats once the continent began drying about 20 million years ago. Later, dragonflies from Asia also colonised Australia and are now about one third of the fauna, including many of the arid-zone species.”

What diversity in one species! It is crucial that this diversity is maintained for the health of our fresh water systems. The appearance of dragonflies is then, a good sign for the health of local fresh water. … And, after all, fresh water is essential for the health of every part of nature and not least, the balance of nature.

The local indigenous people read the presence of dragonflies, associating them with nature’s abundance with the changes of the seasons. “Hunting and harvesting of bush foods still plays an important part in the life of bininj, and revolves around the traditional calendar of six distinct seasons. For example, in bangkerreng, the late wet season, the dragonflies over the water tell people that the fish are fat and plentiful.” Injalak Arts

We can all learn so much from the wisdom held by Indigenous Australians. Over generations, stories told by the elders contain information about the signs that nature provides about the abundance certain types of food ready to be collected. When a species of dragonfly appears, it may mean that a certain plant or flower is in bloom ready to be collected for food, or the change of season is near. So, even if this insect isn’t itself a source of food, then it is a signal that it is time to look for the plants that are ready for collection when they appear.

Diversity is so important. To have diversity we must look after the nature that is this planet. Our planet is evolving and changing as is the nature of the Universe. Natural change such as this we cannot change. The impact of human greed and ignorance is within our power to change.

What is dragonfly magic?

The next day at Gunbalanya saw us travel along a bumpy track to No. One Waterfall for a picnic lunch. What a beautiful place it is with its sheer rock cliff and billabong surrounded by pandanus and other interesting plants and trees … and wariness for the croc that is thought to have been stranded here after the last wet season.

Lunch was spread on a cloth. Immediately, dragonflies appeared. About eight of them hovering over the food. Each was delicate of wing and a different colour; red, blue, green, orange. Diversity. All in one place.

As the dragonflies’ presence symbolised diversity, diversity was to be found in our group; Indigenous Australians and white Australians born in Australia, England and South Africa.

Looking at the symbolic magic of dragonflies is important as it helps us to align our lives with nature. Not only does it lend meaning to our lives, it serves to make us more aware and caring of our environment. So here are some thoughts about what the symbolic meaning of dragonflies might mean for you.

Dragonflies flit here and there. They hover, perfectly still. – Do you move quickly from one thing to another instead of remaining, concentrating, and finishing one thing at a time?

Dragonflies signify the changes of the seasons; also, changes for you.

Dragonfly asks you to go deeper into things; to pause, contemplate and find deeper meaning and tap into deeper emotions.

The magic and mystery of life is awakening in you.

What is dragonfly message?

As we begin to listen to nature and to what she is telling us, we notice the presence of dragonfly and find meaning relevant to our lives.

The abundance and diversity of dragonfly warning us of the changes of the seasons of the land and the seasons of our lives. They remind us to speak out, look out and act to protect our environment.

The habits, colours and resilience of dragonfly reminds us of the importance of diversity; in nature, in human cultures.

A strong message came with the variety of dragonflies that came together and joined us for lunch – that people of diverse cultures come together to share and be together, to respect, accept and honour difference and diversity, and to learn from each other.

I hope you enjoyed this journey with me,

Blessings,

Betsy

ps. I couldn’t help but indulge a few of my dragonfly + one wasp photo below!


dragonfly on car antennae

red bodied dragonfly

Luminescent wings

wasp

Some references for you:

Injalak Arts Centre http://injalak.com/culture/

Prof. Günther Theischinger,  “Australian dragonflies and man: now and in the future”

Seasons Greetings with Love and JOY!


Add love to the world one heart at a time.
I’d like to wish you all the best for this festive Season!
 
I know it can create a lot of stress with the pressure to give presents, finances and not least, relationships.
 
This Season is about coming together with those you love. Families and friends sharing love, joy and happiness is what most of us dream of.
Many are dislocated from family and friends and this becomes even more difficult at this time considering the focus. Others come together with good intentions and differences get in the way; conflict arises.
 
How are you going to approach this time to ensure that the focus of love, joy and happiness comes to the fore? How will you be prepared so that you can transform discord to laughter? Please comment and share your ideas about how you do this.
 
Here is what I do my best to do!
I like to be prepared; that is to be conscious of how I am; how I’m feeling, stress levels, thought patterns, energy and so on.
Ask myself “How will I approach this with love?”
First fill myself with love – gratitude – positive thoughts – pamper myself and do things that bring me joy. If I’m happy others will want to be happy around me 🙂
Feel into my loving heart and know that this is how I want to be.
Let love overflow into all that I do
Notice when my wounded heart is getting in the way – send it love and healing
Notice when my negative brain is talking to me and transform these thoughts to positive talk.
We bring love and peace to the world starting with ourselves. We really can bring this change into being.
In love and gratitude,
Betsy

Making Presents with Presence

What is your take on giving presents? Are you tired of feeling you have to meet the expectations of others when you choose presents?

Commercial gift

How can you make a present count?

What do you do if a person has everything? How do you choose presents that carry a message of your appreciation, gratitude and best wishes and intentions to the one it is meant for?

Present giving can be a minefield for stress especially at Christmas Season where the spirit of the time is about giving. To say the least, commercialism has a lot to answer for, for taking the spirit out of present giving.

Understandably, financial resources, the number of gifts to be found and the desires of the recipients become the focus and dull the joy of the giving spirit. Social and family culture is also a consideration during this time – ‘How it is done in our family’ – as families come together to celebrate.

Another way of approaching gift giving is to give a gift from your heart; to express all you feel and wish for this person in a present created by you.

Creating Presents from Your Heart

Q. What if I’m not creative? I don’t have a creative bone in my body!

A. Read my previous blog. It will help you understand the nature of creativity.

Q. How can I create a present come from my heart?

A. Creating from the heart begins with getting in touch with, and then listing everything that brings a heart connection between you and the other person. Remember all the things that the other person holds dear and is excited by. This will give you clues as to what kind of present you will create.

When you’ve decided what to create, gather the materials you require together. As you do this, you will consider the colours, shapes and textures that resonate with the person you have in mind.

You may have found a ‘recipe’ on the internet, in a magazine, or from your imagination. As you make the gift keep the person in mind, remembering all the positive things that you, and they, want in their lives. This will put your difference, uniqueness, energy into the gift. It doesn’t have to be perfect. Imperfections, like differences in relationships, are loved for their intention.

Q. What if I can’t make things? I’m all fingers and thumbs.

A. If you insist that you truly don’t want to dip into the full Monty of creating, then you can create by following the steps above, and purchasing, for example, a collection of things that reflect different aspects of the person. These will have the energy of your positive thoughts and will connect with the passions, colours and textures of the person.

Presentation.

Wrap your gift with the same intention, choosing colour and texture and style that reflects the spirit of the person or the nature of your relationship.

An Example:

I decided to create a present for a woman I had met a couple of times before. I wanted to show my respect for her. In making the present, I remembered the meaning of her name, her ethnicity, her love of nature and spirit in all things. I wrapped it in black tissue paper with a red ribbon – indigenous colours. When I gave it to her, she noticed the wrapping and then she took to heart the materials, the colours, the symbol – all that was important to her. We recognised the love and respect and connected in a way that otherwise wouldn’t have happened.


Wishing you a meaning filled Festive Season,

Blessings,

Betsy